Supporting a friend through a hard time

When a friend is going through a hard time, being there matters more than finding the right words. Practical help and listening go a long way.

You will need

• Time
• Patience

Steps

1. Get in touch

   Don't wait for your friend to ask for help. Send a message: "I heard what happened. I'm here."

2. Listen without advising

3. Offer practical help

4. Don't compare with your own experiences

5. Keep in touch later too

6. Point them to professional help if needed

7. Remember significant dates

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